September 23rd 2014 will mark the 84th year of the Unification of Saudi Arabia by King Abdul Aziz. All of Saudi Arabia is gearing up for the festivities and KSA’s biggest cities Riyadh, Jeddah and Dammam- Al Khobar are arranging all kinds of events and festivals to celebrate the occasion! Personally I love spending the […]

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Something new and exciting on Blue Abaya.. I decided to start a series of posts, kind of like a photo challenge of day to day life in Riyadh after some readers have been asking me to share more family photos and to show what the everyday life is like in Saudi Arabia.. . Many of […]

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  • Susie Johnson KhalilSeptember 20, 2014 - 9:34 pm

    Love your new series. It’s fun and informative!ReplyCancel

  • naouel bouyacoubSeptember 21, 2014 - 6:56 am

    Interesting and amusing in the same time!ReplyCancel

I wanted to share something very powerful that touched me deeply today, a song called “We Are Here” by Alicia Keys, one of my favorite artists of all time. Please listen to it. If you don’t listen to music for religious reasons, then read the lyrics. Dear Alicia, Thank you for this wonderful song and the […]

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  • Susie Johnson KhalilSeptember 13, 2014 - 8:16 am

    Love this song! I am here (in Saudi Arabia) because this is where my husband wants to be. So I am being the dutiful wife and have followed my husband. While this is not the place I really want to live, I am here and trying to make the best out of my experience of living here, which includes trying to bridge the gap of misunderstandings between Saudi Arabia and the rest of the world. Sometimes I don’t do a very good job of it, but just getting the discussions going and opening the lines of communication are steps in the right direction.ReplyCancel

  • Soile HaapalainenSeptember 13, 2014 - 8:38 am

    I’m here right now, because life didn’t turn out the way I planned, or thought it would. But it’s ok, I’m quite happy and in peace with myself. I’m in Saudi because I want to travel, experience new cultures, meet new people and do things I would not be able to do at/from home. I’m here because this is where my life took me, and this is where I’m supposed to be, for now.

    And I’m on Blue Abaya, not only because you are my friend, but also because your blog is amazing, I’ve learned so much more about Saudi by reading it. So, thanks!ReplyCancel

  • ValerieSeptember 13, 2014 - 9:49 am

    I love Alicia Keys too and this song is one of her best so far!!

    to answer why am I here for? I am here to find new interesting things about a country I know nothing of before coming to Blue Abaya! So thank you for that and please don’t stop doing all those things for us. take care lady!ReplyCancel

  • LaylaSeptember 13, 2014 - 11:33 am

    Thank you Valerie!
    I’m happy to hear that!
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  • Robin DaySeptember 13, 2014 - 12:17 pm

    I am in Saudi arabia to be with my husband to support him while he works. It’s cheaper than trying to run 2 households both here in Saudi and our home in the USA all year. I also get to avoid the snow and cold weather back home during the winter.ReplyCancel

  • Karen CrociSeptember 13, 2014 - 12:22 pm

    I am here to learn and to teach. Sometimes I am the student. Sometimes I am the teacher. But I am woven into the fabric of the universe because I can do nothing else. It is my path, and I must follow it.ReplyCancel

  • SusanSeptember 13, 2014 - 4:29 pm

    I found you while researching
    Saudi Arabia. I am also in healthcare and have accepted a job there and I am an American. I also believe that if more people inform themselves about other cultures we can bring people closer. Thank you for this wonderful site it has been enlightening.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaSeptember 13, 2014 - 7:16 pm

      Hi Susan,
      thanks so much for your kind comment! Will you be coming to work in Riyadh? all the best on your journey to the ‘magic kingdom’ :) ReplyCancel

  • Margaretha Beverloo SmithSeptember 13, 2014 - 4:33 pm

    Hi Layla, I chose to follow my husband here a year ago, because I was extremely curious of a country and a culture that we know absolutely nothing about in my home country Sweden. I saw glimpses of Riyadh air base on CNN during the first Gulf war. That was all I knew.
    In Sweden we also have a constant debate going about immigrants in general and muslims in particular, based on ignorance and fear. I decided to come here, look, listen and learn, and then blog about my expat life – in Swedish. Trying to do my tiny part of building a bridge between the cultures and the religions. And I am happy to say I am getting great feedback from Sweden!
    I am here on Blue Abaya, because your website was my guiding star when we had decided about the move, and I first started to look for something to hold on to, something that could give me a hint of what to expect. I also sent you a couple of emails, Layla, with questions that were vital to me. And you always replied, in reassuring words. For that I am unspeakably grateful!
    You are doing so much for this country you should be the Saudi Ambassador somewhere in the western world :)
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    • LaylaSeptember 13, 2014 - 7:05 pm

      Dear Margaretha,
      Thank you for your amazing message, it really made my day! very happy to hear you’re also blogging and will definitely stop by your blog too even though my Swedish is a bit rusty :)
      I’m humbled by your compliments, and also it’s very encouraging to me, to keep on doing what I’ve been doing for years, sometimes I doubt myself but then hearing back from readers always gives me new motivation, so thank you for that!!ReplyCancel

  • Um E DaniaSeptember 13, 2014 - 6:55 pm

    I am here in Saudi Arabia because I preferred living in a Muslim country than UK. I came with my husband and now staying from last 4 years and enjoying every bit of it. I am thankful to Almighty Allah who gave me a chance to visit Haram. ReplyCancel

  • jeanSeptember 14, 2014 - 4:06 am

    To learn about SA through the eyes of resident (yes, ex-pat.). You’re doing a great job.
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  • SireenSeptember 14, 2014 - 8:15 am

    I am here in Saudi, because my husband works here, so I wanted to stay with him. This is not the place I would willingly chose to live in, but I’m trying to make the best of it. While my stay here, I’ve learned more about the Saudi culture and made wonderful friends from different parts of the World.
    I am here on Layla’s blog, because it’s informative, funny and witty. When I read her blog, I feel that I’m not the only one with different views when it comes to Saudi. I enjoy her writings and her out of the box ideas:)ReplyCancel

    • LaylaSeptember 17, 2014 - 4:47 am

      Hi Sireen and thank you for the comment :) great to hear you are trying to make the best of it! What else can we do right?

      Glad you enjoy my out of the box ideas:)ReplyCancel

  • jinkySeptember 15, 2014 - 5:27 am

    Hi there ms. Layla i just came across your blog because i googled what are the best restaurants in riyadh and your blogsite was one of the answers that google gave and i found it great and even laughed about your comment and stand with mcdonalds and i told myself she’s my kind of girl. Anyway i found myself going thru your site further and became more interested with you and your blogs cause you saw something good here in this country wherein all i have are negative thoughts ands feelings and i have all reasons to leave but i just cant as of now. And i want to know,thru your eyes and experiences what are the good
    things this country has to offer. Thank you.

    From your new follower.. please dont stop what you do cause unknowingly you are helping and changing people’s lives.. you are a blessing and continue to be one. May God bless you always. In your cause may allah bless you.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaSeptember 17, 2014 - 4:35 am

      hello there jinky :)
      I’m touched by your message, thank you for taking the time to write your comment, it gave me something to think about and definitely inspired me to keep on writing!

      all the best to you and god bless you!ReplyCancel

  • EstelleSeptember 19, 2014 - 5:11 pm

    Asalamu alaikum,

    I am on Blue Abaya because I love the writing, the pictures and more than everything to see an outspoken successful woman making the best of her life in KSA.

    I love that you created your own business. I admire that your professionalism on blogging has been acknowledge by magazines.

    And much more.

    To my eyes, this is not an exception for the women of Saudi. It is on the line of our beloved Khadija (RA) who was too a successful business woman, outspoken and kind human being.

    I just wish more women – saudi born, half saudi by marriage (as I like to say) or just living in KSA – will create such spaces to inspire others. And to also show that yes living in KSA is beautiful. Just like everywhere else, your intention and the way you react to things will really matter for your happiness level. It is all attitude based.

    I may not agree all the times with the blog’s views (and Alhamdulelah different people think differently ;) ) – and I am sorry to commenting mostly when I don’t – but I truly enjoy this space.

    Wa salam,ReplyCancel

Last week on the blog we learned of some very primitive, backward and close-minded actions of a few men, hopelessly stuck in the Saudi Stone ages. While a part of the Saudi society seems to be moving backwards, there is another part, less known, which is going in the opposite direction. The western media will rarely […]

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  • RawyahSeptember 8, 2014 - 3:09 pm

    I liked the idea and message until I watched the youtube video.

    Rich girls who are not proud enough to speak in their mother language and do not even pronounce their names in Arabic. The setting, the name of the mission in English letters. All of this is “foreign” to my culture and my identity as a Saudi.

    Maybe they wanted a few claps and cheers from the western world they live in. I am sure they will get that because the west likes it when Saudi women reject their heritage. I have seen it and experienced it.
    But the common Saudi women will never have any connection with this youtube video.

    When Manal Alshreef posted her first videos in Arabic and directed it to Saudi people, there was a great response and support from the very poor to the wealthy, the uneducated and the college professors and ministers. But when she gave her speech in Oslo, many turned against her and those who embraced her before, distanced themselves from her. Her mission lost its power when she distanced herself from her people. Just like those girls in the Takalamy video.

    I have seen this video twice now on youtube and facebook. But all those who are talking about it are non-Saudis. Not a single Saudi friend or relative knows about it because no one cares or have heard about them. Which just proves my point that their message is not directed to the Saudi people.ReplyCancel

    • A.September 9, 2014 - 11:00 pm

      As a Western academic whose research is focused on the developments of education in Saudi Arabia, I totally agree with Rawyah.Very well said. Although I somehow appreciate the video, all in all I believe this stuff is designed to please the West. And Saudis don’t need to please the West, they have their rich and unique traditions, they can move forward at their own pace. Saudi ladies studying abroad represent about 20-22% of the female student population, and not all of them resemble the ladies in this video. Saudis, find your own way. No neeed to become American-style Saudis!ReplyCancel

  • EvaSeptember 9, 2014 - 1:31 am

    Why are they not wearing hijab?ReplyCancel

    • ReginaSeptember 10, 2014 - 2:38 pm

      Eva.. because they have chosen not to. And this might supprise you but they dont have to explain themselfs to anyone!ReplyCancel

  • dalalSeptember 9, 2014 - 1:48 am

    While I agree that not necessarily the women interviewed represent all Saudi women but I do think they represent the new generation which is moving on.

    I want to point out that there is no way to make such a video and and please everyone. So there will always be someone (normally another Saudi) to criticise and come up and to say ” this is not me”
    “she does not represent me”.

    I have heard this thousand times over and it’s getting old.

    Everyone represents their own self.ReplyCancel

    • ReginaSeptember 10, 2014 - 2:43 pm

      Very true. Its not they language they speak thats important. Its the message!ReplyCancel

  • EstelleSeptember 11, 2014 - 8:09 am

    Asalamu alaikum,

    I agree with sister Rawyah.

    Also, I am perplex about this clivage of two worlds that seems to never want to meet : the people who focus on the (some parts, let’s be honest) religion and the ones rejecting (or at least distancing themselves) the religion because they want to be seen as “modern” or because they consider that they are “moving backward”.

    Alhamdulelah I have met Saudi women that are outspoken, intelligent, working women, successful and determined in their lives but who are also seeking knowledge in their Deen and following the Sunnah of the Rasool of Allah.

    If we follow the Sunnah, how could we be ever considered as backward or close-minded ?

    Islam is a religion that is taking the Good wherever it is and rejecting the bad wherever it is.

    It is a religion that is seeking knowledge in all topics, from sciences to arts, because it is getting us closer to Allah.

    And so much more …

    I believe that we do not have to look nor act like non-muslims to be considered modern.

    Of course, these women may be muslims or not, practising or not. And I respect them all whatever choices they made.

    What I find disturbing is this unique vision of a modern Saudi society which should necessarily use the codes of the West and looks like the West to be acknowledge.

    And this is not only a question of religion. It is using the white people of the West as a standard to follow. A norm to be. The good old colonialist mentality …

    Everything else, that is different, is then considered primitive.

    “I cover my hair not my brain” – anonymous

    I would like to finish with the mention of the last Khutbah I attended where Mufti Aasim Rashid (from BC, Canada) made a speech that was really beneficial to me. And I would like to mention it because it changed my opinion about the flying Muttawa.

    To resume …

    We, Muslims, must not speak ill, ever, of another muslim. Backbitting, mocking, criticizing, etc.

    However, we, Muslims, must also stand against any wrong action commit by Muslims or non Muslims.

    Both are parts of making Jihad by the way (little add from mysef not the Mufti).

    How can we meet these two positions at once ? By taking position against a wrong action but not by degrading the person.

    Who knows, these Muttawa may pray, fast, recite the Quran, make charity and more.

    In another situation, they may make us cry by their goodness.

    Who are we to know who is good and who is not ?

    But at the same time, when they did what they did, we all must declare such action absolutely unacceptable within the standards of Islam. And this action must be judged and, yes, punishment have to be done. Shariah must be applied. Saudi Arabia is a muslim country after all.

    And what was the Shariah at the time of the Khalifa of Umar bin Khattah (RA) for example ? Let’s take only one example. A man came to Umar (RA) because he has been harmed in a unjust manner, in egypt, by the son of a Sahabi. Umar (RA) then gave a stick to this man and said to him in front of the very person who harmed him, “do to him what he did to you”. By seeing his rights respected and the justice been made, the man prefered to forgive the one who harmed him injustly and reverted to Islam.

    Maybe it is time for us to remember our Shariah.

    Maybe it is time for us to remember to please Allah and not the people.

    Do I make any sense ?

    I was really mad at the story of the flying Muttawa, at the point that my blood was boiling inside my veins, but now all I can see is the deep need of education that we all need. As a Ummah.

    You, me, she, he, we.

    Wa alaikum salam,ReplyCancel

  • JeanSeptember 14, 2014 - 4:10 am

    These girls are young. I guess the big question how they will translate their words into their lives as they grow older. Or will they fall back just to simply please others.

    It becomes more difficult if they choose to have children. Enrichening, but for sure in SA, more complex and difficult.ReplyCancel

  • LaylaSeptember 17, 2014 - 4:41 am

    Was it maybe missed that the purpose for the takalamy women was not to represent ALL Saudi women, but specifically, the young Saud women who are studying in the USA on their own? I’ve tried to point that out in the text by highlighting it.
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    • EstelleSeptember 19, 2014 - 4:59 pm

      Asalamu alaikum Dear Layla,

      that is the thing. The young Saudi women who are studying in the USA are not all like this at all. I found the video lacking to show diversity.

      Wa salam,ReplyCancel

      • LaylaSeptember 19, 2014 - 8:55 pm

        Salaam Estelle, you do have a point. Perhaps those others did not feel comfortable to share in this way and that’s why it was difficult to find them for the video?ReplyCancel

        • EstelleSeptember 20, 2014 - 9:40 am

          Asalamu alaikum Dear Layla, giving excuses is a beautiful thing (no irony here, I refer of course to the well know hadith on the subject) and I can’t but approve that. Allahu halem. I just hope that it is the case and not that they were not even asked. Maybe time for you to shoot your own videos ? ;) I’m sure you will do a great job making portraits of saudi women. Wa salam,ReplyCancel

          • LaylaSeptember 20, 2014 - 6:06 pm

            I have a dream to make a photo project with Saudi women in the future :) inshallah

  • KateSeptember 18, 2014 - 2:33 pm

    Asalamwalaykum Layla,

    I stumbled across your blog whilst researching expats views of life in the Middle East and have been surprised at some of your postings.

    It’s quite sad to see articles such as the one above which seem to idealize Western culture and most especially University Education in the US/UK.

    You may be unaware of the high levels of sexual harassment that female students are subjected to whilst studying at these institutions as they are rarely reported on but do happen on a regular basis.

    Saudi gender segregation may appear old-fashioned or archaic but as it’s based on Islamic Principles we should accept the wisdom behind it and celebrate it’s wonderfully liberating effect of unchaining women from the sexualised environment of the Western Education System.

    There really is so much more for young Saudi women to aspire to than sitting in a lecture hall surrounded by men and calling it freedom!ReplyCancel

This is the most shocking story involving the Saudi religious police I’ve heard for a while. From beginning to end, it just amazes me how in this day and age an incident like this could still occur. In short: A British man and his Saudi wife were assaulted by Haia’ officials at Danube parking lot […]

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  • Karen CrociAugust 31, 2014 - 11:08 pm

    Setting the example for Muslims all over the world. Shame, Shame Saudi Arabia. Why won’t your King do something about this? I will be sharing this with friends all over the world.ReplyCancel

  • The veiled oneSeptember 1, 2014 - 1:00 am

    I enjoy yr posts tremendously having been raised in Riyadh a long time ago… I can fully imagine the situation and have only compassion for this couple. One question though : how can a british man be married to a Saudi woman. Have the laws changed ? Would love some insight on this. Best regards.ReplyCancel

    • KiritoSeptember 1, 2014 - 11:49 pm

      Saudi women marry non-Saudi men all the time if they were Muslims! There has been a system for that. There are some exceptions of course with certain people who are not allowed to do so such as prime minsters, judges, students who study abroad, diplomats, and others. However, There might be other exceptions to agree on those who are not allowed to so. In any way, they should ask the Saudi government to agree first whether they were allowed or not.ReplyCancel

    • stephen doyleSeptember 2, 2014 - 12:30 pm

      What you really meant was how can a Saudi woman be married to a white man?ReplyCancel

      • ArtSeptember 2, 2014 - 3:39 pm

        What the original writer obviously is confused about is that a “British” person in his mind must ergo be a non-Muslim, as if the UK has no Muslim population or citizens. Ignorance, I’m afraid. Who are the British jihadis flocking to Syria if not British Muslims?ReplyCancel

  • Syed Kabeer IrfanSeptember 1, 2014 - 1:00 am

    Shame On. U. Guys U All Standing there and no one come forward to help them…..These Haia(Islamic police) have no rights. To do these. Shits …Islam Is perfect. But. We ate Not . respect people’s. PlzReplyCancel

  • arab nursing jobSeptember 1, 2014 - 1:06 am

    I am very dissapointed to read about this story, how can this happen when he is married to the woman.

  • Susie Johnson KhalilSeptember 1, 2014 - 1:24 am

    It is supposed to be permitted for a man accompanying his wife to use female cashiers. These idiots were way out of line and just looking for someone to harass, by the sound of it. Just adding to the never ending black eye image that Saudi has…ReplyCancel

  • Hamza FarooqSeptember 1, 2014 - 5:11 am

    Surly they remind me the boss character in games. with 2-3 sub characters defending THE BOSS.ReplyCancel

  • Adnan HSeptember 1, 2014 - 5:17 am

    The biggest WTF moment in a long time! These people are crooks in every sense of the word! I hope the couple continue to press charges and justice is served. Shame on the crowd who seem to be looking at the incident as a source of entertainment!ReplyCancel

  • Waseem QamarSeptember 1, 2014 - 7:20 am

    this is really a shame….ReplyCancel

  • Shahid AhmedSeptember 1, 2014 - 8:17 am

    As i say yet again that we Muslims are bunch of ignorant and intolerant hypocrites! We being Muslims are not practicing Islam, but following our culture from old gloomy days.ReplyCancel

  • GinghamSeptember 1, 2014 - 3:51 pm

    Disgusting and cowardly act from so called
    Religious people. I pray they are ok and justice will prevail. Thank you for updating the story.ReplyCancel

  • JessicaSeptember 1, 2014 - 4:47 pm

    This makes me sick. I am constantly harassed by the Muttawa for not covering my face when I am out with my Arabic husband and children, and that is bad enough. It is incomprehensible how they can do this to a woman and her husband.ReplyCancel

  • Justin ClarkSeptember 1, 2014 - 5:29 pm

    Just goes to show you get violent, stupid cretins in every country. Their behaviour isn’t right and they should face some justice, but these types of events are pretty rare. Riyadh is a safe city – compared to many others – and you’re more likely to be injured in a violent attack (except with a car) in many other capitals.ReplyCancel

  • AgnieszkaSeptember 1, 2014 - 6:45 pm

    Oh, I’m shocked ! What they are doing, and the crowd should help the victims not just stand and watch. I just came to Riyadh and so far everything seems ok, but seeing what Muttawa can do scares me. I would probably went into full combat mood and then be kicked out of the country…

    On the other hand Blue Abaya you have constant invitation to DQ or wherever you want to go I’m lonely now when kids went to school…….

    • LaylaSeptember 3, 2014 - 12:56 am

      Agnieska, are you on my Facebook friend list, send me a message there pls and will try and meet up soon!!
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  • EdithSeptember 1, 2014 - 6:53 pm

    Muttawa are constantly harassing me in the malls. There was a new rule while ago they’re not allowed anymore to say more than once in a nice polite way that you have to cover. But no change! I normally always wear the scarf anyways but they still harass me for always something they look for any reasons.ReplyCancel

  • not afraid!September 1, 2014 - 6:54 pm

    I actually had an encounter with the infamous mutawa yesterday too. I was in a shop waiting for my new abaya in Hyatt Mall when two of them walked into the shop. As usual, I ignored them and pretended not to see them. They told me to cover my hair, and I told them with a raised voice that I was buying one. Then one of them shouted: Buy it now!, which made me shout even louder “Don’t tell me what to do!!!”. He apologised. Then, they started harassing the shop assistant. I saw them pushing him. I was sitting right next to them. To the shop walked a Saudi woman with a fifteen-year old girl who I asked what was going on. She told me they didn’t like the abayas. They wanted all of them to be only black with no patterns. She said they were crazy. We both started laughing. As soon as they left the shop, the argument was getting more and more abusive. They literally cornered the guy not giving him any space to move. They told him to show them his ID and took a photo (is this actually legal?). At this point, I got a bit upset, got up and told them to leave the shop assistant alone NOW as his job is to serve me, and I was in a hurry. They left. I followed them out of the shop. They were on the escalators when I shouted at the top of my throat to get their and everyone else’s attention: Who are you??!!!” , to what they answered : Police. ” I yelled: ” you are not the police! You are bullies!! Don’t run away! Why are you running away? Why won’t you give me your names or ID numbers?? Shame on you for harassing the man! Haram! Shame on you!” People were staring, the mutawa made a gesture to make me quiet, to which I yelled that I wasn’t going to be quiet. I was going to be even louder. The Saudi woman who was in the shop earlier walked up to me and told me to take a picture. Her daughter was shocked and kept saying they were crazy. Anyway, the mutawa ran away. I also told them not to come back to the shop and harass the man or they would be in mooshkila. I told the shop assistant to call me to tell me if he has any roblems with them again as I witnessed the whole incident and am ready to file a complaint!

    Whenever you run into one of them, ask them for their ID. refuse to talk to them. Ask for their ID and make a complaint.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaSeptember 1, 2014 - 7:14 pm

      Awesome! GOOD FOR YOU! I’m s proud of you for standing up for what’s right! They had no right to harass the guy, he just works there! It’s not like he actually DESIGNED or manufactured those abayas anyways! And what if someone wants to wear the fancier abaya to a private event? They should be able to sell all kinds of abayas.
      May I post your comment on the Blue abaya FB page please!ReplyCancel

    • NajeebSeptember 2, 2014 - 4:14 am

      Wow, good for you for being so brave, even following them out and scolding them loudly! They are nothing but bullies and thugs, with too much time on their hands.

      A sizable percentage of them are ex-cons who were freed because they turned to Islam in prison and memorized parts of the Qur’an (heartfelt, or just to get out, who knows), and as we can see frequently, it is hard to escape one’s innate nature.ReplyCancel

  • Najeeb SheikhSeptember 2, 2014 - 1:09 am

    To show that SA is serious when it says that its constitution is the Qur’an and that everybody is equal before the law, the government should publicize on the world stage the punishments those barbarians are given.

    Plus, the police that responded but left seeing that the attackers were bearded men of God, should also be punished for letting civilians continue to get terrorized by government officers.

    All those Saudi bystanders should be ashamed as well, and I hope they arrest the member of the public who also took part in the assault and give him exemplary punishment. Flog everybody who took part in the assault, flog them in a public place for the whole world to see. And then jail them for a couple of years at least. They are religious terrorists, and should be treated as such. I hope next time they assault a bodybuilder or a fighter and get their guts beat out of them, what an awesome sight that would be.

    Fact of the matter is, a sizable percentage of those field workers are ex-cons who were freed because they turned to Islam in prison and memorized parts of the Qur’an (heartfelt, or just to get out, who knows), and as we can see frequently, it is hard to escape one’s innate nature.ReplyCancel

  • Mackie AcejasSeptember 2, 2014 - 1:36 am

    Why are you still there? For God’s sake ….Get out! There are loads of illiterates in that place and sooner or later they will behead all Christians living there.ReplyCancel

  • Jacob FennellSeptember 2, 2014 - 3:04 am

    Nightmare. Dudes, don’t travel around with women in the Kingdom if you’re not related to them. If someone assaults your wife though, by all means, kick the shit out of him, Muslim or not. Beat his ass. ReplyCancel

  • Rita KinvigSeptember 2, 2014 - 4:03 am

    Sick to the Core,bunch of grown up Men who are Evil to Core no matter what Colour,Religion they are Sickos!!ReplyCancel

  • […] A first-hand account of the assault is revealed on a Saudi blog, Blue Abaya, where Howorth details the incident step by step in a post titled, The Attack of the Flying Muttawa. […]ReplyCancel

  • rSeptember 2, 2014 - 8:35 am

    Wow this story is scary for me as an American wife to a Saudi. I have never had any encounters with the haia except once. My husband and I were outside Masjid al Harram with our daughters just sitting and enjoying the view, when one of the Haia told my husband to leave because it was a women’s area. The strange thing was that there were families all around us sitting with blankets under them. My husband was a little annoyed, but the guy only said it once and just walked away. He didn’t yell or anything. I almost wonder if the incident with the British man was just because he was a Brittish man married to a Saudi woman. I know in my husband’s tribe they don’t even like the women of their tribe to marry outside of their tribe. Getting married to a foreigner is unimaginable. Maybe these men felt angry just because they don’t like a Westerner married to a Saudi woman (completely unislamic behavior).ReplyCancel

  • Irfan AwanSeptember 2, 2014 - 1:18 pm

    Dear All,

    Good & bad cop exist in every society so please consider them like a bad cop.Its seems like that these guys were frustered to see a Saudi Girl with a Non Saudi Man (Particularly a Western man). I have been lived in Riyadh for around 04 years and the biggest problem with local Saudi in Riyadh are their attitude. When ever I found a good Saudi, he was always from outside Riyadh (Mostlly Jeddah & Medina).
    Extremism is always bad whether its in the form of nationalism or in the form of reglion like these people as religious Police.ReplyCancel

  • AdamSeptember 2, 2014 - 1:48 pm

    Why have you changed the account from Peter Howartn where he called the Haia “Isis freaks” and removed his description of them as having evil eyes?

    You also removed the twitter link?ReplyCancel

    • LaylaSeptember 2, 2014 - 3:57 pm

      Because that was a false statement that’s why! A twitter user tweeted it, as if it was the translation of the alhayat report, both WERE NOT form Peter! Stupid people making things up. Not even the SG article (the very first one) was a direct statement from Peter! I can assure you this statement is from him directly as I’ve spoken to him on several occasions.
      I believe the story going on around twitter was first said it was an american tourist at buraidah date festival, who refused to buy dates, then got attacked by extremists LOL.
      My mistake for believing the tweet was from a reliable account!ReplyCancel

  • ArtSeptember 2, 2014 - 3:36 pm

    It is all well and good for Saudi authorities to claim that the Mutawwa’een/Haia don’t represent official Saudi policy, yet this law-unto-themselves group is tolerated by the same government year after year. Even the police fear to interfere. In the ’60s they were spray-painting the legs of Saudi Aramco employees’ daughters and attacking long-haired boys with scissors on the street.

    The Guardian of the Two Holy Mosques must also look to guarding the name of Islam in the eyes of the rest of the world, Muslim and non-, by finally outlawing this brainless band of bigots. Is this really the Islam and Saudi Arabia they want to advertise? Letting it go on says that, yes, this really is the face of Saudi Islam. It’s their choice.ReplyCancel

  • Arijenne DobSeptember 2, 2014 - 4:11 pm

    I am sooo extremly embaressed by this incident.Although i dont live in saudi or am related in anyway to saudi except by being a moslim i feel a huge anger and disappointment and emberessement to this act. This is such a shame on all moslims.Whats wronh with these people i want to know wand whats wrong with the authorities that allow these people to represent “religious” conduct. Are they above the law? and is this how the prophet would of dealt with any situation no matter what it would of been.Shame on you to disfigure any justice!!! I am truly sorry and my apology to you and your wife!! Hamdulilah ur safe and havent been wounded!! ReplyCancel

  • EuropeanSeptember 2, 2014 - 4:48 pm

    I am afraid I would not have been so passive if I were confronted by those goons. They would have ended up with a free nose re-structuring. They need something like that. These peoples action is haram, very much so. It seems to me they only do this kind of work because they are too dumb to do any other meaningful job.ReplyCancel

  • Arif ShaikhSeptember 2, 2014 - 8:08 pm

    ……….And such is the state of muslim community all over the world. Where strong rules the weak unjustly.
    Since when a Muslim man is allowed to hit a women.
    May allah guide us to the right path.
    We have forgotten what our Prophet (PBU) thought us. ReplyCancel

  • haji jojjooSeptember 2, 2014 - 9:05 pm

    embarrassing people is their aim with the protection of the police .they made islam a difficult religion for life . this is happening for years & the victims are mostly Saudie citizens & nobody care of defending their rights , even worse if the victims are people from poor countries . this story is a sad one , but that present the ugly face of them ..the victim this time is a britsh citizen . the britsh embassy should take care of this case & to know their is no human rights here .
    the saudi government should change a lot of rules to protect their volk & not to embarrass them with false religion . we do not need any muttaw more .ReplyCancel

  • Imran KhanSeptember 3, 2014 - 5:20 am

    Hmmm, a lot of rhetoric and hyperbole in the comments I have read, but no solution presented. The reason why the Muttawa behave with impunity is because they enjoy complete anonymity. Try asking Muttawa who misbehaves for identification and he will laugh at you.

    Solution is to make every single Muttawa have a badge and an identification present on their body entire time they are interacting with the populace. This will send a message to them that they will be identified and held accountable for their misdeeds.

    This will not entirely eliminate their aggressiveness, but will definitely decrease it. So if you want to be a part of the solution, write to King Abdullah and ask him to issue a royal decree for the solution I presented. Thank youReplyCancel

  • Taher KagalwalaSeptember 3, 2014 - 6:27 am

    This was very distressing news indeed, Layla. Thanks for a detailed interview with the victims. Our prayers are with them.ReplyCancel

  • IshtarinSeptember 3, 2014 - 11:18 am

    ….you will know them by their fruit.

    Matthew 7:15-20

    إِذَنْ مِنْ ثِمَارِهِمْ تَعْرِفُونَهُمْReplyCancel

  • Tabish PatelSeptember 3, 2014 - 1:02 pm

    There is some bigger aim here, seriously if this guy was an Asian or African, it would have never made the news, chances are that he might have even proved guilty for some reason unknown. But knowing the police left without solving the case is really sad, they should have been arrested for assault and public misbehavior. ReplyCancel

  • Rana AlamaSeptember 3, 2014 - 8:06 pm

    They’re monsters human evolution kills everything beautiful ,pls stopped them because their danger now exists as Daash or ISISReplyCancel

  • […] week on the blog we learned of some very primitive, backward and close-minded actions of a few men, hopelessly stuck in the Saudi Stone […]ReplyCancel

The National Museum, which is part of the King Abdul Aziz Historical center in Riyadh, is one of the largest in the Middle East and undoubtedly the most famous and most visited museum in Saudi Arabia. An impressive collection of artifacts, scriptures and antiquities are inside this two story building covering 28,000 square feet.  The […]

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  • manuelSeptember 21, 2014 - 7:04 am

Al-Balad, which literally translates to “The City”, is the historical area of Saudi-Arabia’s second largest city Jeddah. Founded in the 7th century, Balad historically served as the city center of Jeddah until the big oil boom when most families started moving out the area. Al Balad Historical District, which was just recently added into the UNESCO […]

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  • OPNOAugust 17, 2014 - 7:02 am

    I LOVE the architecture there! I one day HAVE TO GO….ReplyCancel

    • LaylaAugust 18, 2014 - 11:55 am

      Yes, it’s so unique! I hope you get to go there soon!ReplyCancel

  • GracieAugust 19, 2014 - 12:06 am

    Excellent photographes once again ms Layla! You are a spokesperson for the Saudi Kingdom.
    People like me would never find out about these place if not visiting your site.

    Thank you and keep sharing!ReplyCancel

  • JessicaSeptember 8, 2014 - 11:41 pm

    Thanks for sharing these ideas for travel Laylah, I’ve added them to Pinterest so I can begin exploring when I arrive :) ReplyCancel

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      you’re welcome! thanks for pinning them :) ReplyCancel

It’s been quiet around here lately! Blue Abaya has been MIA while enjoying a nice relaxing break midst the Finnish summer. Every year we visit my home country Finland, where my family speeds most of the time at a so called ‘summerhouse’, typical for Finns to retreat to during the very short-lived Finnish summer. Normally […]

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  • […] Filed in: destination | Finland | photography | Top Ten | tourism | travel29 comments This winter we were lucky to be able to spend quality time with family, vacationing in Northern Finland . It’s holiday season up North and we went to Lapland to enjoy the christmas holiday break. Lapland is truly a wonderful and magical place. I wanted to share with you 10 amazing things from our Lapland trip. You’ll notice most of the images don’t have much sunshine in them and the images are blue. This is due to the fact that the sun doesn’t rise very high above the horizon during winter months. In the northernmost parts of Lapland, inside the Arctic circle, they experience 2 months of darkness. In other words there’s no sunrise at all during that entire period of time! But it makes the place even more magical to me. During the Finnish summer on the other hand, the situation turns upside down and the sun doesn’t for for a whole two months, which is the origin of the ‘Midnight Sun’. For photos of the beauty of Finnish summer, go here. […]ReplyCancel

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My dearest daughter and son, While you’re both fast asleep in your beds napping, I’m thinking about the two of you, here in a hospital bed waiting for spinal surgery. All kinds of thoughts are running through my head. You both are always my first concern and I can’t help thinking of what were to […]

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  • Ciara HigginsJune 16, 2014 - 1:30 pm


  • Jodi Braithwaite StrongJune 16, 2014 - 1:44 pm

    Beautifully said. I trust your surgery will be successful and you’ll have many more years in which to pass on these values.ReplyCancel

  • Karen CrociJune 16, 2014 - 2:50 pm

    And now, my dear, you are in surgery. David and I are praying that God give you, A, your children, and your family Peace. None of us can control the outcome, but we can keep you in our loving thoughts. As one who has been through neck surgery, I have been in your shoes. Now you are in mine. And, just as I did, you will wake up, with so much less pain that when you went in, see the face of the one you love, and you will begin your recovery. Mark my words, my dearest friend and sister, Peace and God are with you now.ReplyCancel

  • Mustafa YarowJune 16, 2014 - 3:15 pm

    enough said , get well soon , believe
    me , you will be alright. i have big faith in allah.ReplyCancel

  • KommentoiJune 16, 2014 - 4:40 pm

    Saako kysyä, että mikä vaiva on kyseessä? Syöpä? Jumalan siunausta joka tapauksessa. Ikäviä tälläiset jutut. Rukoilen puolestasi. Toivottavasti elät vielä pitkän elämän.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:52 am

      No ei onneksi syopa, leikattiin niskasta valilevy joka painunut pitkalle selkaytimeen ja halvausriskin takia se jouduttiin kiireesti leikkamaan. Kaikki meni onneksi hyvin!ReplyCancel

  • RawyahJune 16, 2014 - 4:58 pm

    This was a very touching letter Layla. I hope you will get well soon and that your children will always be your pride and joy.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:50 am

      Thank you Rawyah, I’m home now and alhamdulillah all went well.ReplyCancel

  • Sadia Monem KarimJune 16, 2014 - 5:16 pm

    Get well soon. Insha AllahReplyCancel

  • Sanna VenhoJune 16, 2014 - 6:13 pm

    Here comes the waterfalls. see ya soon.ReplyCancel

  • Rose Marie HefflinJune 17, 2014 - 11:29 am

    I was in tears when I read it. I’ll keep you in my prayers…….<3

  • TaraJune 17, 2014 - 11:41 am

    Amazing and beautiful your children are the luckiest kids in the world to have you as mother! They should proud of you and I can safely say your husband must be too.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:47 am

      Awww thanks Tara, i hope my kids think so too :) ReplyCancel

  • BilkisJune 17, 2014 - 4:56 pm

    Hi Layla, this post brought tears to my eyes.As a mother, i’ve been in that situation where i wondered what’ll become of my kids if something happened to me. Alhamdulillah, i’m still alive and i pray that your surgery is successful so that you can continue to be the awesome mom you’ve been to your kids.
    Wish you soonest recovery and looking forward to an update post from you.
    Bilkis recently posted…FINDS: Court Shoes!ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:45 am

      Hi there Bilkis, thank you for the prayers, surgery went well alhamdulillah now at home recovering, still in lots of pain but getting better day by day.ReplyCancel

  • AgnieszkaJune 17, 2014 - 8:07 pm

    Hello Layla,
    I hope surgery went well and you are feeling better. Me also as a typical mother first would worry about kids not myself.
    I love your blog. We are coming soon to Riyadh for work so I wanted to thank you for writing so beautiful and informative. Your blog became my encyclopedia arabica :-)).
    All the best, get well and I may se you soon somwhere at the party in DQ -:).

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:43 am

      Hi Agnieszka! Thank you for the kind words, I’m happy to hear the blog has been of so much use to you!
      Are you going to be living in the DQ as well? Maybe we can meet up sometime :) ReplyCancel

      • AgnieszkaJune 22, 2014 - 8:33 pm

        I’m glad that you are better. Yes we will be coming in August and we will be living in DQ. I would love to meet. I do not know anyone there yet.

  • RhynJune 18, 2014 - 8:04 am

    Hope your surgery went well, Layla.
    And your children read what you wrote.
    I can’t help but become emotional while reading your letter, though I dont have any kids but I feel your emotional turmoil. I wish you recuperate well and continue caring for your family as well as writing fluidly your thought.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:41 am

      Thanks Rhyn, doing better already and surgery went well. Inshallah they will get to read this letter when they are older.ReplyCancel

  • whyJune 18, 2014 - 2:28 pm

    why do you live in Saudi, where your children will face all these restrictions, especially your daughter? it’s your responsibility to bring them out of there. It’s your fault if your daughter gets abused by her saudi relatives.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:40 am

      It’s not as simple as you may think, and I’m not going to get into that in detail anyways..However I find it really unfair and harsh to say ‘it’s your fault if your daughter gets abused by her saudi relatives”. I’m doing my best, and her Saudi relatives are not abusive by any means!ReplyCancel

      • Michelle atkinsonJune 28, 2014 - 3:01 pm

        Ignore Layla, people thrive on getting attention any way they can xReplyCancel

  • Helen Christine BloomquistJune 18, 2014 - 3:27 pm

    Prayers are with you for a full recovery, from Texas. My father’s family left homes in Norway and Sweden to start new lives in America. Always keep connected with “roots”. Not long ago, two of here were contacted by a cousin in Sweden. I was filled with joy to learn that my grandfather’s oldest brother (different mothers) had remained in Sweden and our new found cousin lives less than 10 Km from where my grandfather was born. I am also thankful that the education systems in that area insist that students be proficient in multiple languages. I wish that the U.S. would do the same. May you and your children have many years together, and may all your dreams be fruitful!ReplyCancel

  • Shadia MohsinJune 18, 2014 - 8:34 pm

    So well said. You have taught me something today. Thank you…. I feel inspired from this letter xReplyCancel

  • Umm GamarJune 19, 2014 - 3:21 pm

    These are the words I would tell my daughter. I hope you are fully recovered n continue to care n raise your children into wonderful human beings Inshallah!ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:38 am

      Umm Gamar, thank you and all the best to you and your daughter :) ReplyCancel

  • Charline BrownJune 20, 2014 - 11:42 pm

    I hope you recover quickly. This beautiful letter to your children is exactly what I wish for my granddaughters that are half Saudi and half USA. I so enjoy your website and have felt comfort in many of the posts as I worry about my family and friends half a world away – in Saudi Arabia.

    I have included you and yours in my prayers and will be anxiously awaiting your posts on Facebook.

    With prayers of healing,
    Charline Clithero-Hadley Brown (Kim Mominah’s Mother)ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:37 am

      Hi Charline,
      thank you so much for writing to me, I’m recovering at home, hubby is taking care of me and the kids :)
      All the best to you and you whole family!ReplyCancel

  • AamaniJune 21, 2014 - 5:36 am

    Hi Layla, get well soon.ReplyCancel

  • Hj RadenJune 21, 2014 - 5:01 pm

    Dear Layla, may Allah make you well and healthy again. I can begin to understand what you are going through having lived in Riyadh for the past 10 months.

    Perhaps the solution would be for your children to have dual citizenship?

    Just my two cents.

    Best regards.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaJune 22, 2014 - 3:35 am

      hi there, they do have dual citizenship but that won’t would not mean my daughter could still leave at free will, inside saudi she is a saudi citizen, needs guardian for everything :/ReplyCancel

  • minkaJune 22, 2014 - 10:17 am

    Wow. I am truly sorry to read this. God speed with the surgery and whatever condition caused it to be necessary. Heal, so your daughter’s freedom won’t be forever taken away. Alive, you can act to protect her.

    I spent some years growing up in the middle east and it left me proud to be a woman of the north. Never, never, never for me – the life of a middle eastern woman. I saw that my freedom was my most precious possession from the example of the oppression of women in the village. Never, never, never for me. Never. And of all the western women who followed their hearts into the middle east you have always seemed the one who maintained a free spirit. You made it seem possible. But what I read in this letter is that unless circumstance break perfectly, it is impossible. You lost freedom by choice but that may have dark consequences for the one you should most protect, your daughter. You are right to be afraid.

    Good luck, I wish you all the healing I can muster.ReplyCancel

  • NabilahzahraaJune 27, 2014 - 4:23 pm

    Assalamualikum Layla , please don’t worry , Allah is with you . In Shaa Allah you will have safe and speedy recovery .ReplyCancel

  • KateJuly 2, 2014 - 6:39 am

    This is a tender letter, and beautiful. I also think you’re VERY brave.
    Because, realistically, the worst isn’t you dying. The worst is your husband dying while you and the children are in Saudi. This is the main reason why my husband and I moved once we decided to have children. We spend our time between the US and Europe, and his family visits us or we meet in Dubai. Everything else is too risky for me (I’m from the US originally). People call us paranoid, but my husband’s sister made an … unfortunate marriage, and that really hit my husband hard. He doesn’t ever want that for our daughters.
    I lived in Saudi for 3 years, and I LOVED it. People are always surprised by that. But, one of the reasons I could enjoy it so much is that I knew it wouldn’t be forever. Plus, I was risking only my own situation – not my children. Had my husband died in a freak accident, I could have potentially made it to a US embassy. But, with children, obviously only I would make it out (unthinkable). And my husband’s family is incredible. They’re not ogres. I would actually love it if they came to live with us! They’re awesome. But, even so, I’d be way too paranoid to risk my children’s future living in Saudi. And I hate saying that because I did have a wonderful experience living there. But, there’s no other way for me to say it – the laws suck, and until they change them, we’re not going back.ReplyCancel

  • PetraJuly 2, 2014 - 4:24 pm

    Pikaista paranemista, kirje lapsillesi nostatti kyyneleet silmiin, todella koskettava kirjoitus. Toivottavasti paaset pian perheesi luo sairaalasta! Tiedan osittain tunteesi vaikka Turkissa tyttareni elamaa ei samalla lailla saadella kuin siella, olin itse kaksi vuotta sitten leikkauksessa ja ajatukset kiersivat leikkauspöydalla lahinna niiden ajatusten ymparilla etta mita jos en heraakaan ja miten tyttö sitten parjaa?ReplyCancel

  • T.July 7, 2014 - 10:01 pm

    I hope you speak Finnish with your children.ReplyCancel

  • JeanJuly 17, 2014 - 5:12 am

    It’s a lovely letter for your children to hold and to keep forever.

    My comment: Then immigrate one day from Saudi Arabia.
    I say this as a daughter of a picture bride. My mother came to Canada after my parents “selected” one another via a few letters and photo exchange in the 1950′s.

    Immigrating allows one to redefine for the next generation. Not perfect, but better if laws for women are highly restrictive.ReplyCancel

  • LarissaAugust 9, 2014 - 11:38 pm

    This was beautiful. I found myself in this text and have thought about most of what you have mentioned.ReplyCancel

  • AnonymousAugust 24, 2014 - 7:51 pm

    Dear Aiti (and every mother in her situation)

    I hope your worries be assured..Saudi society wouldn’t condemn your kids, they are Saudis by law (Jus sanguinis)! Like Western region cities as Jeddah for example, hell even in Riyadh, kids with foreign moms are not treated differently and really from the bottom of my heart I hope society will never change their views on that for your kids sake- I think it’s quite the opposite they’d be praised for if the mother were from Western country (US.,Europe.. etc), maybe they’d be a bully target if the mother were from Asian countries.. I know SOCIAL HYPOCRISY)- I just hope they will do the same to us with Saudi mom and foreign dad! that’s whole level of sexism!!! I’m not Saudi by law and probably never will be.. I’m treated like a foreigner you once were before coming to this country even though I was born and raised here.. I’ve never been to my other home, or outside the country more than the summer..!! This would be problematic if your daughter decided to marry non-Saudi because her kids won’t benefit from her being one.. citizenship is only granted through the dad, not the mother.. if she did marry non-Saudi, society will probably tell her the same thing my mother been told “marry him, stay here but you’re on your own or go to his country”..!! I hope you’ll never worry about her falling in love with non-Saudi for that matter though I know your (or his) country will accept her with open arms..

    Praying for your surgery to go smoothly and for speed recovery :) ReplyCancel

    • LaylaAugust 25, 2014 - 11:32 am

      Thank you for the heartfelt letter, anonymous :)
      I can’t imagine how hard that situation you described must be for the mother, the foreign husband and the kids. I pray things change and the people who make these twisted laws see the true Islam and also start following it.

      All the best to you,


  • WomanInLoveWithSaudiManAugust 27, 2014 - 8:09 pm

    Hi Layla! I’ve been reading your blog since a long time ago but i stoped. I didn’t know about your surgery and all the changes in your life. I hope things get better and i trust everything will be all right!
    I write this for you and this go to the women who are in the same situation as me or in yours.
    I meet a saudi man since 2012 , we used to talk every day, every time, he asked me for marriage this year and i really love him, i feel he loves me too the same way.
    I don’t live in Saudi Arabia neither he does. We live in different countries now, he is studying and i am studying too.
    He told me if we got married i should live in Saudi Arabia, also become a muslim. I don’t know his family, he doesn’t know mine, also he doesn’t know my country and i haven’t gone to Saudi Arabia yet.
    He has to ask a permission so we can get married. I am so afraid of the changes my life will go through after we get married.
    I would like to know Layla how was your life after getting married, also i would like some women who had pass through the same situation share with me her experience and knowledge, it is really important for me. I really love this man and he really loves me too, but i don’t know anything about couple life in Saudi Arabia and how my life would be as a foreing.
    Thank you very much for any help you can give me.
    The best wishes for you Layla and your family, also for the readers of this blog.ReplyCancel

    • LaylaAugust 30, 2014 - 3:11 am

      Hi there, thank you for your message.I know someone who can help you with your issue better than I can..May I forward your email to them?ReplyCancel