Every once in a full moon I get hate mail or just hateful comments on the blog. I guess it’s normal. Haters gonna hate.
Naturally there will be people who will disagree on what I write or how I view things. But some of those are just negative envious haters that thrive on trashing others. Putting others down makes them feel better about themselves. Negative people also cannot stand positive people. I bet I get on their nerves! Others are just ignorant and rude by nature and nothing can be done to change that.
Predominantly these comments have come from Saudis, some women who pretended to be my friends from the hospital I worked in, and unfortunately Muslim women suffering from the Holier than thou- personality disorder.
Usually I just delete these comments or don’t bother to respond because if a person has made up their mind then there’s nothing much I can do or even care to do. I see it as a waste of time to get into an argument with these type of people. Everything I would say to such a close-minded person would just backfire. So I usually just leave them to their sorry existence.
I have however saved the “best” comments in my comments box. These actually had me cracking up because of their absurdity, incomprehensibility or just plain humor factor. It is time to open the can of worms! I will expose these comments now and let you laugh at them too because honestly, that’s the only thing these people deserve. Here is the Blue Abaya Hall of Shame!
One of the first comments I saved was this one:
“You’re offensive to all women because you are so ignorant. Your giving finnish people, blonde women, and all expat nurses a bad name. Clearly you lost your grip on reality a long time ago. Go work somewhere else so you won’t take **** down with you. Signed, Normal and Sane Expat Nurses.”
So this is what “normal, sane” nurses think? Wow. Kinda scary actually. My mother is a psychiatrist and she tells me how shocking it is that the largest group of psychiatric patients that come for treatment are actually nurses. The above comment is a prime example of people in dire need of help!
The saddest thing about this comment is that it’s obviously coming from a person/persons (or maybe person with multiple personalities??) who knows me. Perhaps even a so called friend also known as a back stabber. I knew many friends women that all turned their backs on me after I converted and met my husband. And when my back was turned the knives were thrown! Some even continue their hatred to this day.
This is a prime example of jealousy among women, the ignorance and prejudice some expats have of their host country, and the hatred toward Saudis and Islam some feel.The mention of “loosing grip on reality” is direct referral to my conversion. When a western woman converts to Islam most other westerners here will start calling them crazy or delusional.
Oh and I had to censor the name of the hospital to prevent people from thinking it’s a looney bin because of this comment!
Btw I wonder how exactly I am tarnishing the name of blonde women in particular since I thought blondes are considered dumb, slow and “easy”? So what’s there to tarnish LOL
Ok. So how about this classic:
“Laylah: if you don’t like Saudi Arabia, just leave the country ; Or you trying to prove that you are real hypocrite ? Why you live if you don’t agree with the 1) Laws of the country 2) Regulations of the country 3) Legislations of the country You say you are finnish, and we know how clean the finnish people are ?! I am sure the mutawwas didn’t teach you or your husband that in Saudi Arabia after relieving one has to use water or you go to Jail for being dirty, filthy or unhygienic ( b*** crust people )”
What can I even begin to say to this anal person? Hey news flash I do like the country (unlike many expats here!) but there just isn’t a country in the world that doesn’t have its problems. Saudi has many issues and I write about them honestly and to the point. Sorry if you can’t handle the criticism of your perfect country Mr. Clean Butt. Btw laws, regulations and rules are actually the same thing.
Oh, and no thank you to the muttawa coming to teach me how to wipe my a*****e. I’m sure you enjoyed it very much though. I did not know this was included in their services so thanks for the info anyways.
The next hate comment I saved was posted as a reply to a comment “Saudi Princess” left on the article “Tourism in Saudi-Arabia Faces Many Obstacles”. The Princess wrote how she thought allowing tourists into Saudi would contaminate her country, how brothels would start popping up and alcohol would be served everywhere(as if the Saudis are not already doing a pretty good job on all of those). Check the full post and comments here: http://blueabaya.com/2011/09/tourism-in-saudi-arabia-faces-many.html
This is the reply of Hijabi:
“With all respect, but I agree with Saudi Princess. I dont know whether you are a convert to Islam or not, but to me you just cause a lot of fitna with this blog. Alot of negativity and anger towards the saudi way of life on this blog. So sad.. Also…your liberal, progressive Islam bothers me. Because there is no liberal Islam.. Your post about polygamy really shocked me! you speak with so much arrogance about how polygamy is not necessary and how it should disappear beceause your nafs is not able to handle some parts within Islam.. Always keep in mind that all these words that u write will be held against you on the Day of Judgement. Your blog and your view on certain parts of Islam is exactly the reason why western people shouldnt come to saudi! They try to change Saudi into something more western! As read on your blog, western people and even some locals dont appreciate al mutawa but to be honest, they cant appreciate it because they want to be free, and go agains the rules and dresscodes within Islam. So happy the borders are so strict and I hope they make them even more stricter!”
Oh goodness. Can someone please pass the screwdriver?
I’m pretty fed up of hearing this type of BS coming from muslim women. Did she even read the article? How can someone think the article is negative in any way? Only a person wallowing in negativity would.
My liberal, progressive Islam that bothers her. You know what? God gave me a brain so I could think for myself. That’s actually how I found Islam, by questioning, reasoning, reading and realizing. It’s not my problem if you can’t handle the FACT that Muslims will always have different opinions on things. Not all muslims are brainwashed into thinking and following blindly.
Not everyone is going to agree with you Ms.”I write a make-up and false eyelashes blog but I like to judge other muslim women for having liberal views”-Hijabi. I don’t really care what your views are either way it’s what conclusions you came to and it’s fine by me . But don’t come here to judge me and feel sorry for me and then in the next sentence say I am arrogant. Look whose talking.
Don’t even get me started on muttawa and freedom. Those two words do not even belong in the same sentence! Most Saudis will agree.
Then check out what the Holiest of All wrote:
You are extremely rude…and arrogant..you should read what you wrote. Extremely condescending. I don’t know who you think you are..oh yes…a white “princess” married to a rich Saudi..so what…get a grip..you seem to have the typical snotty manners of a European…even when they convert they lack manners…subhanallah…go pray 2 rakaahs asking for forgiveness for being so ignorant, horrid and absolutely snotty. If you are so busy and get a gazillion comments then hey…don’t blog..not that you have anything interesting to read..I just wanted to know where I could purchase this abaya and you didn’t even have that information….whatever…inshallah I hope you learn proper muslim manners…but it seems you’ve learned SAUDI manners…I pray Allah gives you hidaya and you should go read the Hadith Qudsi…Arrogance belongs to Allah not women such as yourself…”
Manners, manners, manners..Sigh. This was the reply I decided not to post because of its personal offense that goes against comments policy (read our conversation and the post here http://blueabaya.com/2010/05/blue-harbour-exhibition-in-riyadh.html and you be the judge if what she said is true or was I in fact trying to answer her weird question ) Here it is now in all it’s hate and glory.
What a brilliant example she gives of “proper muslim manners” huh?
I’m going to skip all the miserable nonsense in the beginning and just comment on the “gazillion comments -don’t blog”-equation. I find this conclusion very interesting. So a blogger that has lots of comments should stop blogging? Struggling to find time to reply means I shouldn’t even bother writing my uninteresting posts? Hmm…
Arrogance belongs to Allah?? Where did that come from!
I wonder what she has against Europeans? Actually, I really don’t care.
And then finally this comment which just made my day:
“Laylah, I think one of these days you’ll get reported to saudi authorities and your HATE BLOG will be shut down. I think you are crossing the RED line here. I have been through your HATE BLOG and its FULL of HATRED against saudi people, saudi culture and traditions. If you don’t like it here, LEAVE! My comment is not about ‘staring’ but rather your HATE BLOG in general.”
Ladies and gentleman I think we have a winner here! Mrs. HATE posted this comment on the “Letter to Saudi Women Please Leave My Husband Alone”-post. Like I mentioned in the beginning of that post (which can be read here http://blueabaya.com/2010/09/plea-to-saudi-women-please-leave-my.html) it was highly unlikely the letter would ever reach any of these women in question.
It took over a year but finally BINGO! Even though she tries to convince us she is not commenting on the staring aka bad manners, but reading between the lines here and just the “subtle” tone of her comment..I think this post hit a sore spot. Ouch!
FYI I’m not going to leave Saudi. I like it here and have a good life. My husband is one of those one in a million men out there (which I doubt you wouldn’t know of), I have a beautiful happy daughter, wonderful friends, we travel a lot around this amazing country and we just moved to a dream apartment in DQ..So sorry to disappoint you dear.
If anyone is ever going to report this blog it would be such a person as you and you most likely already did it because..
Phew. I feel like I have taken out the garbage now! What a stinky pile of crap there was lying around in the comments box.
Thank God I get so much more grateful and positive feedback from all over the world which keeps me going. I will leave you with an email comment I recently received from a new fan of Blue Abaya:
“Really an interesting initiative to discuss Saudi culture and its implications in a respectful manner as done by you. I appreciate your use of proper language in discussing issues in which you tend to differ with the local people. If only, every culture around the world had a Laylah.”
Have a nice day everyone!