I normally try to ignore the creeps around here and just walk past them. I pretend what they’re doing doesn’t affect me while in reality inside I’m about to explode from rage. In my head I’m screaming “STOP STARING AT ME YOU JERKS! You’re acting like wild animals, hayawaan and you’re in Saudi-Arabia for God’s sake BEHAVE!”
Sometimes, enough is enough. We all have our limits. So this day, my bag of creeper-crap became full. I could no longer just ignore them like I normally do.
I go to the park a lot here in the Diplomatic Quarters. You can check out why here.
DQ is an abaya free area so I usually take advantage of this and opt for normal clothing because the black abaya does become really hot to walk in direct sunlight. That doesn’t mean I’m walking around in a miniskirt and tank top though (although some women here do). I would normally wear loose fitting and over all modest clothing. But does this stop the perverts from oggling?
So as I was walking to this park further away from my home, we passed by lots of construction workers mostly from various Asian countries. They work in the DQ daily and should be accustomed to seeing women around. With or without abaya. Does this change their behavior though?
Most of these men are Muslims. They should be aware of the aya in the Quran which addresses FIRST men to lower their gaze and observe hijab, THEN it advises women to dress modestly. Does this have any effect on these men?
Sometimes I walk around in my abaya past these creeps. Does that stop them from staring at me and send a message I don’t want to be looked at?
It has ZERO effect on this unwanted behavior whether I’m wearing the abaya or not.
In fact, if a woman were to walk BUTT NAKED on the streets in Finland, people would stare at her LESS than these men in Saudi stare at women, despite them being fully covered from head to toe.
Seriously I have never been stared at like this anywhere in the world. I’ve lived in seven different countries including the “rape capital of the World” South Africa yet nothing’s come even close to the amount of rude, blatant, obnoxious stares women get around Saudi Arabia and I’d say the Gulf a whole. I’ve actually felt more safe as a lone female in dangerous places to walk around like in say, Colombian cities. I’ve experienced sexual harassment in different forms in most of the 60 countries I’ve been to including my home country Finland, but sadly Saudi Arabia is at an entirely different level and dimension of female sexual harassment.
These guys really are something else. Only a woman who has lived in this region and experienced this can truly grasp the feeling of being somehow violated to the core by their actions. I would definitely call it a form of sexual harassment.
Walking past these kind of men is infuriating, stressful, humiliating and tormenting to say the least.
This rude staring at women is common everywhere in KSA, not just in the diplomatic quarter where this walk of horror happened to happen. I attribute this to the overall atmosphere of treating women like objects and lesser beings from both the cultural and governmental aspect. That and the foreign cultures of these men where women have similar lower status in society. They could really use a pair of:
I must point out that by far the most well behaved men I’ve seen around the Diplomatic Quarter areas are the Saudis. Most will lower their gaze and not look at me or other women at all regardless what they’re wearing. But then once in a while you run into an idiot like the one on this particular day.
We were passing by a bank where a Saudi man was standing in the parking lot. He took one look at us then started frantically waving and asking us to enter his car. He obviously thought we were prostitutes and wanted to hire us. Rumor has it there’s a secret brothel somewhere in the D.Q. Perhaps this a-hole thought we’re employees of said brothel…ermmm with two babies in tow? We ignored him and he started shouting out offensive suggestions to us. Disgusting and humiliating. Do these bstards have ANY brain activity or decency?
So there I am, one baby strapped onto me and the other in the stroller, and all I want to do is go and PUNCH HIM IN THE FACE. Now I’m not a violent person, people, don’t get me wrong. But some men just need a massive punch in the face to lighten up.
But we moved on. I tried to forget what had just happened but.. Next we passed by a mosque and it was prayer time. Three workers of some sort (well I didn’t see much WORK being done) sat on a bench opposite to it. They noticed us from far and started ogling at us NON-STOP, wide-eyed like some sort of owls.
Hoo-hoo, Oggle-Ollies. Is anybody home? Watch out that your eyes don’t pop out of their sockets.
I was taking a pic of the mosque and decided to point the phone at them to experiment if that would stop them from staring so rudely. You would think they’d feel ashamed for being exposed and turn away right?
WTH. At this point I was already annoyed BIG TIME. As we walked past them I said in a loud voice “stop staring!” I turned around to see if they had lowered their gaze only to see they had just turned their heads and their eyes were now the size of golf balls.
Watch out you don’t break your neck.
Next we passed by some more workers, all busy doing something really important like moving stones around. Not anymore. Oh hey look, it’s women coming! Lets stop everything we’re doing and stare at them mindlessly. Because it’s so much fun to violate women.
Check out this dude. He needed to start leaning on the truck thingy once he saw us! I guess he isn’t able to concentrate all of his brain cells onto the two females in his visual field otherwise, because standing without support while intensely gawking would be too challenging for a man. Again as we had passed them I made a surprise attack with my iPhone to check if they were still looking:
So the leaner-creep is still staring and didn’t turn his face around even when noticed me taking the pic but the other guy at least felt some sort of shame.
Ugh….I was fuming at this point. But more was to come. To our horror we soon realized we had to pass another construction area in order to reach the park. I felt like screaming to all the pervs on that street and throwing rotten dates at them but of course I couldn’t with the kids there. I tried to control myself and only raised my voice every once in a while saying “stop staring” Nobody did. In fact, it seemed to only spark even more interest so I stopped.
Walking along this street made me feel as if I’m completely naked and the men are raping me with their eyes. So blatant and immoral they were.
It was like walking in the gay parade or something. Spectators watching on the sides of the street cheering leering at the people on the parade.
See the pervert guy in the turban? I will call him Mr. Turbert. Funny how the bearded guy (outwardly trying to appear so religious) was the most perverted of them all. Mr. Turbert saw us coming, stopped his work and stood there like a statue looking. Then he actually started following us.
Who are you calling? Your wife, while you’re gawking at us? Go drink some hot sauce.
I can see you Mr. Turbert. You think you’re clever, huh? Why don’t you just jump off a cliff.
The only man on this street that didn’t leer at us was the old guy pictured here. God bless his soul.
Ladies and gentlemen, let me introduce you to…
He surely thinks I snapped the pic because he’s ALL THAT. Wrong. It’s because you actually took this relaxed position when you spotted the female parade from a long way. He took his sweet time to eye us out from head to toe with his x ray vision.
When we came closer I made a surprise pic of him but he didn’t get the memo and kept enjoying his time. The look on his face is so smug it’s infuriating.
Oh hey look it’s Mr. Turbert again! I hope you walk into a pole. No a landmine!
Noticed this jerk leering from the parking lot. Snapped his pic too to include in this jerk photo-collage. So he noticed I was taking the pic and I started yelling at him to stop staring. Did that help?
Of course not.
He just changed his position and kept staring. No shame, no respect, no decency. I was outraged. I wanted to go and kick him in the groin.
After five minutes, Mr. Hand In Your Pocket Putter is still staring. Leaning on the car and chewing on miswak just enjoying his sweet ol’ time. I swear if looks could kill he would be a corpse by now. Didn’t your mother teach you ANY manners? I can think of a name to call you which begins with MOTHER.
What a day. I hate perverts.
Freakin jerks! Have some decency and respect!
Just leave us women alone!
We are not pieces of meat walking around for your enjoyment.
Next time I’m going to be armed with water balloons. Filled with vinegar! HA!
UPDATE: There have been several cases where nannies/maids have been approached and physically harassed (groped, touched) in the parks by construction workers.
DISCLAIMER: This post is not intended to make fun of any specific race or nationality. This post is about MEN behaving badly, and I’m calling them out for it. I could care less of the origin of the rude men, if they’d be from my own country I would blast them just the same. If you found this post racist in some way, you are very wrong and perhaps should do some self-reflecting. About 90% of this post is written tongue in cheek and as a RANT from an enraged violated female perspective without much thought or planning.
If you don’t get my sense of humor (which I admit sometimes might be very sarcastic and black) then that’s fine. We’re all good.
That’s it folks. Nothing more to this, so please don’t make anything else of it. Thank you!
P.S. The camera or iPhone in this case was pointed at the men AFTER they began staring. Not before, duh. They are not looking because I’m shooting them. I was there, I know what happened, you weren’t, so please spare us your expert comments on what was going on and who was leering at who.