I want to share with you dear Blue Abaya reader an incredible story of courage and inspiration. A while ago a young Saudi woman, with whom I had exchanged emails with a few years ago, contacted me again with some really great news. I had never forgotten about her and the dilemma she was facing in her personal life, being stuck in a forced marriage. She wrote me a very touching message which actually made me cry, I was so glad and relieved to hear she had managed to get out of that situation.
It amazed me how something I wrote here in my own little corner of the internet, could have such a huge impact on someone’s life.
So with the permission of the young Saudi lady ‘J’, I will share her story with you. I want to keep the good karma flowing, by sharing her inspirational story which will hopefully then inspire someone else..and the circle goes on! So please do share her story with your circles too and let the good karma spread :)
I especially hope that those people read this who say they hate my blog and claim that it spreads negativity and a bad image of Saudi Arabia. They could not be more wrong. I’ve come to realize that those people are in fact projecting their own negative feelings and failures in life.
Without further ado, here is the letter…
Not sure if you’d remember me but almost 2 years ago we emailed back and forth. I vented to you about me being stuck in a forced marriage. Your blog has helped me become my own hero and change my life for the better.
I got a divorce and I’m finally getting a chance to pursue me dream of earning a master’s degree. I wouldn’t be able to tell my story without mentioning how your blog has helped me find the strength necessary to stand up to all of society and demand my god given right to chose my own path.
You know, at some point a person reaches his or her breaking point and they decide they’ve had enough of living in fear. That is what happened with me, I was weak, had no alliances, or like minded people in my life. So I looked at your blog like a sort of motivational speaker. I had always known I’ve been wronged so many times in my life but could never find the right words to fend for myself. Your blog charged me with both sheer fury and stealth determination. Long story short, I maintained a firm stand and after 10 months of separation, my divorce was finalized.
None of this would have happened had I not come across your website on one of those nights I was scouring Google looking for answers to my situation. I am a changed person and with a little support and enough determination I have become my own hero.
My reply to her:
Hearing this makes me so happy! I’m immensely proud of you for your strength and courage and choosing your own path in life. I do remember our messages and I often thought of you and how you were doing. You’re an amazing woman!! The sky is the limit for you. Your message has touched me and I found the spark to come out of my blog slumber and back to writing, thank you!
So how about that? Pretty amazing and inspiring isn’t it, considering she’s restricted in so many ways by patriarchal Saudi society and laws, yet managed to turn the tables around. She was able to get out of a seemingly impossible situation and is now in charge of her own life. Thousands of Saudi women face similar problems and dead-ends in their lives, accepting it as their ‘fate’, but J took fate in her own hands.
She fought for what she knew deep inside her was the right thing to do.
She had dreams. She found courage within herself to pursue those dreams and I am so so incredibly happy for her.
I wish her all the best life has to offer and I hope her story will in turn inspire others.